Every community has them.
The person who knows who to contact.
Who can find a ride.
Who carries somebody to hospital.
Who knows which office to call.
Who helps with the funeral.
Who lends the money.
Who turns up.
Reliable people become infrastructure.
The danger is that everybody can become so accustomed to what they provide that nobody notices the provider is exhausted.
Community care should travel in more than one direction.
Sometimes the helper needs somebody to ask:
“And who helping you?”